Final Thoughts: Month of Cleaning
I mentioned last month that I was sick for more than two months. My body felt so fatigued and I felt like my entire being went into a slumber state, operating at 30% of my usual productivity levels. It was not unlike a bear in hibernation. Considering it is winter, maybe my body just needed that intense rest and forced it upon me with illness. Maybe the universe forced me to cancel all my plans and reschedule half my shoots so that I had the the space and boredom at home to reboot 12 Experiments again? Maybe I just had the winter flu and that's all there is to it. Whatever the reason, my month of cleaning really supported me in crawling out of the slumber and now I feel good again.
Thank you cleaning! Thank you routines!
Here are my final thoughts on this experiment.
Deep cleaning the house feels so good! It also helped me lay a good foundation for the rest of this year’s activities and experiments. I know it is common to procrastinate by cleaning and now I don’t have that excuse. I’m sure I’ll still find other ways to procrastinate but I can’t putter around the house getting side tracked (as much) anymore.
Daily Routines, though annoying, actually creates less work in the long run. I know this intellectually but I finally saw it physically manifest in my home. I really hope my unstructured soul takes to this one.
Cleaning the house makes me want to get organized, declutter, and revamp other areas of my life. I decided to try a similar approach on my business for experiment 2!
What could possibly be bad about keeping a clean house? There's one big ugly one that came up for me. Even though this was my experiment and even though I decided to become a neat freak over night, I started to resent my husband for not being a sudden fanatic cleaner with me.
Granted, he does clean and did clean a ton this month. If you followed my instagram stories, you would know that he deep cleaned the rugs, the car, organized the shed, helped me declutter the whole house. He even reorganized my dresser drawers for me. He also makes the bed, does the laundry, and takes care of all the house plants and the yard. He did so much! Yet, I still took on this "I do everything” martyr role.
When you finally decide to own up to all the responsibilities that it takes to run a household, the to-do list is daunting. On top of that we decided to stop dining out so there was the added pressure of meal prepping and cooking every single night. I couldn't handle all the pressure of keeping up with all of these chores and I started to resent my husband for not noticing that amount of work I was doing, even though he did notice and he did help.
Being resentful is apparently normal when it comes to chores and Fly Lady Takes a strong stance on martyrdom.
I get emails every day, asking, “How do I get my family to help?” My response to them is to set the example and quit being a martyr. It is pretty harsh. I believe that if you will bless your family with taking care of yourself and the house, that you will see a difference in their attitude as well.
- Fly Lady
Both Marie Kondo and Fly Lady believe that family members eventually jump on board if you have a good attitude about it and show commitment over time to cleaning the house. I think it’s true. Jose, you’re probably too busy being wonderful but if you’re reading this, thank you!
And that’s that. My house is looking so fresh and so clean and I’m feeling like the high priestess of chores. I deserve a crown!
And I’m ready for Experiment #2.
Want to start your own or already doing your own experiments with me? I made a ginormous list of 100 experiment ideas here!